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The Key to a Successful Marriage: Consistent Commitment

I wonder about my commitments. Are they what they should be? Do my commitments make a barrier in my life? If I had less of them, would my life be more of what it should be or somehow would it be more than what it is? Let me share one commitment that changed the course…

The Clinician in the Mirror

What is so important about knowing who I am? What difference does it make if I know who I am as long as everyone I come in contact with knows me? Well, I believe this is where I was stuck for most of my life. I believe it was in this framework I found myself…

Counseling in an Ever Changing World

Picture this. I have five baby pictures. That’s all. There are a few more pictures of me as a young child and teenager. I have all my school pictures which provide a good developmental timeline. I was never a fashion queen or stood out in a crowd. In adulthood, there are enough pictures with me…

Don’t let your imagination be “the end of the road”

Setbacks are merely setups. Being brushed off is the time to begin brushing up. God has a plan. Many have heard this before. I’m not proclaiming something new or stunning or miraculously marvelous. But it could be… because only God knows. Oops, there I go. I am not here to convince you or make any…

Does Anybody Really Care…Should You?

I thought I would try again. I set out to write notes for a possible group that identifies topics of human condition. I want to return to normal topics and themes which influence questions which are common to those who seek meaning and purpose for their life. I want to provide some basic material that…

What is an Experiential Learner? It is never too late to discover

Have you ever been speechless or only able to speak in phrases rather than whole sentences? Have you ever been without words that effectively express whatever you want to communicate or at a loss for words altogether? This happens to me more than I would like to admit. Words have their way of escaping me…

Stoicism: Lost Opportunities

Do you consider yourself stoic? I run into this stance far more often than I ever anticipated. My understanding of stoicism connected to bravery and heroism. Stoicism is a point of stance and conduct which holds back emotions while appearing indifferent to pain or pleasure. There are many examples of difficult circumstances I could come…

Sim City

Years ago, there was a video game called SimCity®. The purpose of the game was to simulate the building of a city. The players act as leaders of a city with the single-mindedness of keeping their townspeople happy. When the leaders do this, the townspeople produce revenue, pay taxes and the player receives payment from…

When Death is Near

There was always required reading throughout all my education. The amount of reading paralleled the level of education. Despite the required reading and along with the variety of reading that we do for pleasure or for a specific purpose, there is reading that I notice has been missed. Fortunately, it is timeless. This article will…

Healing Through the Grieving Process

It has been many years. So many years that if I am out in public or even with family and I mention the death of my parents, which still deeply affects me, I am cast aside. I have been told in no uncertain terms that I need to be finished with feeling burdened with the…