Healing Through the Grieving Process

It has been many years.  So many years that if I am out in public or even with family and I mention the death of my parents, which still deeply affects me, I am cast aside.  I have been told in no uncertain terms that I need to be finished with feeling burdened with the…
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Who Needs a Parent Coach?

Who needs a parent coach?  The simplest answer is nobody.  Having children is natural, so the general understanding is that becoming a parent is natural also.  Historically families were built within traditions.  Parenting skills were passed on from generation to generation because extended-family lived close and were very interactive in one another’s day-to-day life.  I…
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Is One The Loneliest Number

Loneliness is quite different than being alone.  Being alone is being by myself.  Just because I am by myself does not necessarily mean I am lonely, because sometimes being alone DOES mean I am lonely.  Frequently, we experience loneliness when we sense our lack of importance to other people based on their actions of independence,…
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The Elusive Perfect Relationship

In all the work I do, in one way or another, relationships are involved.  Humanity was created and designed for relationship.  Relationships clash.  Therefore it is also a safe bet to say that most pain is derived by people in relationships.  Yet oddly enough, we desire security, safety and belonging which also are sought after…
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Wanting More out of Life? Start with Awareness

In terms of personal growth and development, the name of the game is Awareness.  Awareness is the point at which taking care of ourselves begins.  Awareness is the point at which we want something more or want something different and we seek change.  Awareness is the beginning step for all counseling, coaching or any growth…
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My Holiday Wish List

Here I am confused again. This state of confusion is nothing new, but maybe somewhere in my past I was just better at living in this state than I am now.  For some reason, I began pondering Christmas as the time of year to survive.  How can a time that we are supposed to look…
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What is grace

Give a Little Grace

What is grace?  It is a term that can shape and form moods and attitudes often invisible, yet influence actions.  Grace is a word seldom used in some circles.  In other groups, grace is assumed as common, understood and practiced.  A dictionary definition; grace is a way of movement like smooth sailing that is not…
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Test The Boundaries – Know Where To Draw The Line

Test The Boundaries – Know Where To Draw The Line

What is risky behavior?  What is it that drew me to do some things that I look back on with regret?  What was the invitation that made me act without thinking or try to experience what I heard others talk about?  What was the exhilaration that I held on to from listening without trying and…
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There is Goodness in Grief

There is Goodness in Grief

It was in my graduate studies I found my passion.  I was not conscientiously seeking it.  I stumbled and struggled into it.  Grief and Loss is my passion.  Jokes have been made about my passion as if I had to be kidding.  No, really!  Grief and Loss is my passion!  It is a journey that…
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Courage or Conformity

What is courage?  The author of the book Being Mortal writes “Courage is strength in the face of knowledge of what is to be feared or hoped.”  James Hollingworth wrote “Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the judgment that something else is more important than fear.”  Courage is required to live especially…
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